Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about, but prefers the pronoun "she" in private. An author questions her own ethics as she debates whether the murder she was a witness to is fair-game in her profession.

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement. Lastly, a writer is angered and perplexed with their partner's self-diagnosed autism. Listen to the Biffs weigh-in on these complex issues. [1000 Stories 2018 Bourbon Barrel Aged Red]

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find refuge in his girlfriend when she weaponizes his emotions for his dead wife for leverage in the relationship. [Ghost Pines 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

The Biffs test their skills against advice from Coleen Nolan of the Mirror UK. A mother with knowledge of her daughter’s beau’s past questions whether to tell her or not. A man places a camera in the shower in hopes of spying on his wife and ending his 15-year-dry-spell. Finally, a woman meets a man at a wedding and suddenly she wants more than what her husband can offer. [Gualdo del Re, 2012 Sangiovese]

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these interesting social situations with Stefani and Ray as they judge if these Redditors are assholes. [Novinophobia 2018 Chardonnay]

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a mother, and he doesn’t even see it. [The Pale 2022 Rosé]

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over with her new beamer. [Chateau de Lacarelle 2021 Beaujolais-Villages Rouge]

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years later. The final writer asks for what she’s doing in wrong in her efforts to make genuine friend connections. [Rio Lindo 2017 Syrah]

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfriends, calling his respect for women to question. [Chronic Cellars Sir Real 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

In Best of the Biffs Part 2, relive some conversations from episodes such as Rectum Ralph, Aunty AITA, Side of Raunch, Gaslighty, and more. In these episodes, they cover some of your favorite columnist from Amy Dickinson to E. Jean Carolle, as well as some of your favorites from the Slate. Laugh at the ridiculous banter. Giggle at the over-reaching puns. Just another weekly chuckle with Stefani & Ray. It’s a wonder these Biffs have made it this far in life.

Let’s take a walk down memory lane - a throwback to our first year in podcasting. A “Coffee Shop Karen” from episode 8, wants peace and quiet in a public establishment. From episode 9 (Let Him in Marjorie), a writer’s couples therapist dumps “them” for “him.” And finally, one really long hair on a toe in episode 5 (One Toe One Hair) is the only flaw that this writer sees in his partner.

Stefani and Ray talk ‘Ask Amy’ in this week’s episode. A man in his 60s questions his cyber relationship with a twenty-something in the Philippines when he begins to support her financially, despite never having met. A husband snoops on his wife’s computer or phone while she’s using it. A past eating disorder is informing Mom’s present anxieties about her daughter’s possible relapse. And plucking stray-hairs off a shirt should be a sport, but this writer isn’t having it. [Carpineto 2019 Dogajolo Rosso]

This week, the Biffs take on the Independent’s Virginia Ironside. A family’s dislike for their son’s ex-girlfriend intensifies when she decides to keep the child they conceived post-breakup. A mom writes in with the idea of kidnapping her daughter because she’s been brainwashed by a cult. Finally, a writer shows concern for their psychological health when their lack of empathy is self-diagnosed as psychopathy. [Zin-phomaniac 2019 Zinfandel]

Stefani and Ray read from The Slate's Dear Prudence column, in this week's episode. A man grinds up against his girlfriend in his sleep, calling for his ex-. A woman discovers her wife's secret and mysterious checking account. Sister's quarrel over the importance of one's wedding over the other's vacation. Finally, a man is looking for the words to tell his boyfriend that he's not interested in living in the free home next-door to his parents. [Kadabra 2021 Malbec]

It’s back to the classics this week with life advice from the one and only Dear Abby. A woman ponders her future with her husband after constant gaslighting following sexual assault. When the boyfriend is away for work, the naked, divorced spiritual advisor physically heals his girlfriend, then sleeps over. “Kennedy’s” volleyball future is threatened by Dad’s bigoted views on her trans coach. Finally, a wife’s had enough of her husband letting it all hang out. [Segura Viudas Cava]

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole thread (Aunty AITA). A woman’s presumptuous boyfriend plans a work trip, leaving the responsibility of his kids to her. Someone gets defensive after their moment of levity backfires as insensitivity during a funeral. A professional with experience working with individuals diagnosed with ASD pushes the envelope with a friend about her child’s behaviors. Another writer catches mom’s wrath when he refers to someone as “baby momma.” [Azul y Garanza 2020 Tempranillo]

The Biffs give Sally Land of The Sun’s Dear Deidre a run for her money in this week’s episode. What’s a man to do when his wife feel ‘dirty & disgusting’ showing him any sort of affection? Is it curtains for this woman’s cowardly nice-guy? Is Mom in the right to accept blame for her son’s inability to warm up to girlfriend? It’s an episode of conviction and impassioned conversation. [Commanderie du Bardelet 2019 Bordeaux Blanc (Sauvignon Blanc)]

This week, the Biffs read Natalie Bencivenga’s Ask Natalie for the first-, and certainly not the last-, time. Things go awry for one reader after finding out her best friends knew about her husband’s affair. Following a one night stand, this writer wants to know if she should even trouble the standee for reimbursement related to the termination of the pregnancy. Low libidos bring husbands to consider a separate lover for the high-riding counterpart. [Cote Mas 2022 Rose Aurore]

Agony aunt, Coleen Nolan, of UKs Mirror, takes center stage with the Biff's this week. Secret's out and a writer questions whether or not to bring up his partner's affair. Mystery boxers make it home with another writer's wife, following her work trip. A woman wants out of her six-month marriage when her husband begins to treat her as a possession. [90+ Cellars Prosecco]

This week, the Biffs give advice in response to listener questions. It’s a soap opera scenario when a writer’s long lost twin ends up with her ex-. What we’re sure is a Lifetime movie plot gets a PBS response when a man confesses to his girlfriend that he’s investigating her family. Finally, a ghost-writing best friend wants in on the accolades that the credited author is receiving. Do you need advice? Send us your questions, comments, and all of your concerns to illadvisedthepodcast@gmail.com. [Chloe 2022 Pinot Grigio]