Stefani and Ray visit Natalie Bencivenga's, Ask Natalie column, in this week's episode. An engaged woman, three years into her relationship, questions her fiancé’s position against meeting her future in-laws. A woman is shamed by her friends when she wants to ghost on the man she’s been dating, after their first time in bed together. A sister’s drunken attempt at her brother-in-law, causes another writer to question helping her live-in, struggling sibling at all. [Château LaBorde 2018 Bordeaux Sauvignon]

Stefani and Ray take questions from the Facebook group, "High Value Feminine Women," in this week's episode. One woman reaches out to ask for advice in her relationship and winds up talking herself out of it mid-post. Another finds pictures of her man with his ex-wife, with whom he has a child, and questions the validity of the feelings she’s experiencing. Finally, the Biffs discuss another writer's question about standards and expectations between partners, and how to tell the difference. [Whispering Angel 2019 Rosé]

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we continue our dive into this thread. [Josh Prosecco Rosé]

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betrayed by her boyfriend after discovering his subscription. [Bota Box Sauvignon Blanc]

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult variety. A man going to town on himself is caught by his neighbor, whose trespass is, in part, due to a stray pussy [cat]. It’s the Best of the Biffs Part IV.

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while mom’s working extra hard to keep up with the bills on the heels of retirement. [Babich 2021 Sauvignon Blanc]

in their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an imaginative and creative internet surfer. Join this foursome as they take on the internet with some “unrealistic, psychologically unsound scenarios” and responses generated by ChatGPT. Hate it. Love it. [Maybe] learn something? [Veuve Clicquot]

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about, but prefers the pronoun "she" in private. An author questions her own ethics as she debates whether the murder she was a witness to is fair-game in her profession.

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement. Lastly, a writer is angered and perplexed with their partner's self-diagnosed autism. Listen to the Biffs weigh-in on these complex issues. [1000 Stories 2018 Bourbon Barrel Aged Red]

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find refuge in his girlfriend when she weaponizes his emotions for his dead wife for leverage in the relationship. [Ghost Pines 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

The Biffs test their skills against advice from Coleen Nolan of the Mirror UK. A mother with knowledge of her daughter’s beau’s past questions whether to tell her or not. A man places a camera in the shower in hopes of spying on his wife and ending his 15-year-dry-spell. Finally, a woman meets a man at a wedding and suddenly she wants more than what her husband can offer. [Gualdo del Re, 2012 Sangiovese]

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these interesting social situations with Stefani and Ray as they judge if these Redditors are assholes. [Novinophobia 2018 Chardonnay]

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a mother, and he doesn’t even see it. [The Pale 2022 Rosé]

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over with her new beamer. [Chateau de Lacarelle 2021 Beaujolais-Villages Rouge]

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years later. The final writer asks for what she’s doing in wrong in her efforts to make genuine friend connections. [Rio Lindo 2017 Syrah]

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfriends, calling his respect for women to question. [Chronic Cellars Sir Real 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

In Best of the Biffs Part 2, relive some conversations from episodes such as Rectum Ralph, Aunty AITA, Side of Raunch, Gaslighty, and more. In these episodes, they cover some of your favorite columnist from Amy Dickinson to E. Jean Carolle, as well as some of your favorites from the Slate. Laugh at the ridiculous banter. Giggle at the over-reaching puns. Just another weekly chuckle with Stefani & Ray. It’s a wonder these Biffs have made it this far in life.

Let’s take a walk down memory lane - a throwback to our first year in podcasting. A “Coffee Shop Karen” from episode 8, wants peace and quiet in a public establishment. From episode 9 (Let Him in Marjorie), a writer’s couples therapist dumps “them” for “him.” And finally, one really long hair on a toe in episode 5 (One Toe One Hair) is the only flaw that this writer sees in his partner.

Stefani and Ray talk ‘Ask Amy’ in this week’s episode. A man in his 60s questions his cyber relationship with a twenty-something in the Philippines when he begins to support her financially, despite never having met. A husband snoops on his wife’s computer or phone while she’s using it. A past eating disorder is informing Mom’s present anxieties about her daughter’s possible relapse. And plucking stray-hairs off a shirt should be a sport, but this writer isn’t having it. [Carpineto 2019 Dogajolo Rosso]

This week, the Biffs take on the Independent’s Virginia Ironside. A family’s dislike for their son’s ex-girlfriend intensifies when she decides to keep the child they conceived post-breakup. A mom writes in with the idea of kidnapping her daughter because she’s been brainwashed by a cult. Finally, a writer shows concern for their psychological health when their lack of empathy is self-diagnosed as psychopathy. [Zin-phomaniac 2019 Zinfandel]